Sincerity is a prerequisite
I know sales people who, when they learn about the Emotional Commitment (EC), want this without paying the price to get it. The price to pay is a price to pay and it is first and foremost this: We need to be sincere.
What does being sincere mean?
Judging from the diagram and illustration on the process of reaching a solid commitment, sincerity is a three-step process to becoming truly sensitive:
- First we need to know what we want
- Then we need to understand what others want
- Finally we need to stay objectively tuned in to outside impressions
Intuitively and quite naturally, most people instantly react to the above mentioned order by saying: "That can't be right! We first need to understand others, then we can seek to be understood." My response is: You're totally right. However, this is not about understanding first - it's about first knowing what we want. It's being aware of who we are, about having a mission and purpose - an identity. Without an identity we don't even have the internal security and perspective that it takes to begin the process of understanding others.
Someone trying to promote a product without first having true insight into oneself (e.g. the product or company), can never progress to step two of understanding others. This is true in both a micro or macro perspective. HERE is the main flaw and where most sales people fail. We get it wrong from the very beginning by promoting something we're not convinced about ourselves. It's almost like being without mission and purpose. Only when done in the right order can we become truly caring for others and sincere in our interaction. This sincerity is what ultimately makes it possible to interact with others in such a way that we can reach an Emotional Commitment (EC). If we're not sincere, hypocrisy will inevitably surface. The subconscious picks it up instantly and we fail.
And by the way - all of this relates to not only selling, but every aspect of life; a happy marriage, teaching children, management, politics etc. I'll say it again: First we need passion, then we seek connection. These two precede the ability to innovate by the power of intuition touching the inside and most personal level of others. That which stimulates deep ownership to a commitment - emotional commitment!
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