Maybe it's because we believe "using words" is communication
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I have so much to learn, and especially when I'm with others I find this reinforced time and time again. How easy it is to just make a slip of the tongue and blow what you've spent hours and weeks - even years - to build.
A good friend of mine said it so well: "It's like growing flowers, but every once in a while you decide to take a few steps in the flowerbed and walk around." Everyone knows flowers don't grow well if you step on 'em. Yet, we decide to step on others even more than just once or twice, and without blinking our eyes.
Of course, the social world of mutual relationships is a lot more subtle - and controlling our feet is probably a lot easier than taking charge of our mouth. But what is it that makes it so hard? Why is communication so extremely challenging?
Maybe it is because our mind and mental capacity is so much bigger than what words alone can express? When we're together with other people, the message we communicate is not in words alone. We know that! Some people say it's "body language", but I doubt that's even sufficient. There's much more to it. I call it energy. What would you call it?
In spite of the fact that no one is perfect, I still believe in the "perfect sale". And somehow that perfect sale has an almost indescribable energy to it, that I feel needs to be defined.
Actually, I believe I've been there many times. Not because I'm good at selling, not because the customer wants to accommodate me and also NOT because the product or service was perfect. What is it that brought us to that magic moment?
...and why should we care? Well. Imagine if we could apply the same principles - the same sweat and tears - in all settings. What if we could raise our marriage to new levels, family relationships, friends... every meaningful relationship. What if we discovered new powerful ways to tap into each others brains and emotions? That would really be something!
Every time I experience good communication I feel that desire for more. Do you know what I mean?
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